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3月19日 NBA game--76ers VS Rockets basketball game如题
生平第一次去看现场篮球赛，费城的76人队主场对战Houston的火箭队。姚明是火箭队的，可76人队是主场，我很为难是要为哪方加油，最后民族主义战胜地方主义，我大力为姚明呼喊。不过毕竟身在虎穴，不得为非作歹，所以叫的时候很小心，姚明进球的时候我没敢拿出100％的音量，怕被身旁的球迷痛扁。
我不懂球，其实我与其说去看球不如说是去看姚明，幸得有身旁的YX同学解说，才看懂了一半的比赛。到后来比分实在相差太大，火箭队以30多分领先，我就没了兴趣，买了粉红色的棉花糖左啃右嚼，弄得一幅狼狈不堪的样子。这就是真球迷和假球迷的区别，真正的球迷应该是会坚持关注比赛到最后一分钟的。最后，火箭队以124：74赢了76人队，如此悬殊的比分在NBA中应该算少见的。可怜的费城，请别为次哭泣。Success if not final, failure is not fatal, it is the courage to continue that counts.
在宾大的时间不多了，我开始好好计划每周的安排：学车，去D.C.看樱花展，去Boston拜访故友，去Virginia看海，安排和人吃饭，去纽约看百老汇的演出，去听费城的交响乐团演奏......
我.真.的.不.想.走！！！
3月13日 Spring break in Shanghai"Flying halfway across the globe just to spend one week in Shanghai? this is economically inefficient", commented the efficiency-minded whartonites... yes, economically inefficient as it is indeed, there i was, 17*2=34 hours on the plane...back to shanghai, on the business tour organized by wharton china business society.
大半年前，刚到宾大的我，决定不囿于noc这个小圈子，参加一些当地的课外活动，当时看到wharton china biz society spring tour in shanghai在招executive vice president (evp), 就索性报了名，想必是他们看中了我中文好的缘故，破格招了个交换生作evp. 就这样，半年后的今天，和jeanne一起领队，带着一帮大一大二的小孩儿们回到了上海。此行的主要目的（at least ostensibly so) 是为了拜访一些上海的公司，了解中国的经济情况。白天我们参观了L'Oreal, William Morris Agency (a world renowned talent agency), Deloitte & Touche, Bain & Company, DFJ Dragon Fund (the most prominent private equity fund in china, the chinese branch of draper fisher jurvetson, the top VC in USA), chinaVest (an investment bank in china), Shanghai Volkswagon, Yan Dan Sheng law firm, Geely holding group (吉利), 娃哈哈. 说实话，还是比较prefer跨国公司，一来是英语听得放心，不用我给队里的非华人作翻译；二来是他们分析中国的经济情况比较客观，不像中国的公司一再地讴歌改革开放的伟大成果；三来是跨国公司的presentation skills实在强很多，对于我们这种晚上夜生活丰富的一群人而言，presentation的好坏还是很容易区分的 :P
其实，这次旅行之所以开眼界并不仅仅是因为有机会和那些大公司的高层人员交谈，也因为和这帮美国小孩儿混熟了人生观有点受影响。才18，9岁20出头的一帮小毛孩儿，却纷纷对婚姻没有兴趣或者没有信心，
"i don't believe in marriages", "i can't see myself tied down to a single person all my life" etc;
对于爱情他们有着很有趣的理论：
"physical attraction is a must. whenever i meet someone new, if i can't be attracted to his appearance instantly, i will never date him."
"there's this popular ladder theory, one leg of the ladder being the 'non-datable' category, or 'friend' category, while the other leg being the 'datable': whenever u meet someone new, within the first 30 seconds u make a mental judgement, consciously or unconsciously, which category he/she belongs to. then he/she starts to climb up this ladder, on one of these two legs, and never cross each other unless at the two ends. that is, either at the very beginning where he/she can be put into both categories, or at the very end. i.e. u're such intimate lovers that u r also each other's soul mate, and thus best friend; alternatively, u become such kindred spirits that u find urself eventually in love with each other..."
"all i want is a hot girl~"
当谈及为何宾大的couple 率一直很底，虽然flirt and random make out是时常有的，他们的结论是：
people at upenn are all very busy and practical. relationship means commitment, and commitment means opportunity costs. why would u spend so much time/resources on someone with whom u r not sure if u will eventually marry instead of using the time to network, to get another internship, to study more, or simply to party more...besides, commitment is just not practical at upenn, people do exchange programs all the time, or they intern at different locations, etc etc. that's why fling is such commonplace at Upenn, it satisfies ur certain needs, and it doesn't take much commitment...
感叹一个，这年头人都怎么了？难道那些 “执子之手，与子偕老”的美丽故事都成了圣诞老人一样的自欺欺人的美丽谎言了吗？
谈点轻松的话题，到上海的当天正好是元霄节。晚上，我们去了城隍庙。记忆中，我似乎并没有庆祝过元霄节，也三年春节没回家了，所以看着这里的张灯结彩，笙歌乐舞，人头攒动，我竟然头一次有了过元霄节的感动。从那天开始，一直到下一个周六，大家几乎是每晚都去clubbing，凌晨4，5点而归，小憩片刻，清晨又早起梳洗，西装革履人模人样地去访问公司。这或许就是american college kids最强的地方，不论白天怎样劳累，晚上一定是party animal; 不论晚上怎样party，第二天起来依然是精力充沛; 晚上的party自然少不了alcohol and sensual dances, 甚至有人吸食陌生人递来的marijuana, but jeanne reassured the shocked me that marijuana is commonplace in Upenn...OMG, i've been such a good girl all the while...对于clubbing, 我勉强去了两晚，就当见识上海的夜生活吧。其实the guys in our group are very protective, they circled all the girls in our group inside, so that they could act as the wall between us and the random sketchy guys who tried to make a move on us...我不喜酒，不过周六的晚上，在大家的怂恿下，并且既然是last night in shanghai, 也就兴起,在我们住的酒店里参合着众人喝酒, 不过两杯whisky下肚我就开始头重脚轻，所以决定留在宾馆里而不join他们的game (pre-game means drinking in the hotel, game means actual clubbing, post-game means something after that)。我听从了sherry的教导，“drink many cups of water and stay awake till u sober up, or u'll have a severe hangover tomorrow morning!” , 不过我最终不敌酒意和睡意的双重折磨，几杯白水后依然倒在沙发上和衣而睡，第二天早上整个人似乎还是可以function的。
Anyway, one week in shanghai, the ultimate of indulgement and wild fun; whatever happens in shanghai, stays in shanghai.
回来的飞机上竟然碰到了我在宾大的挚友之一的郭二，不胜惊喜。他说自己大一大二的时候也很疯狂过，加入了fraternity，常常party, 饮酒作乐，佳人入怀，不够一段时间后发现自己怎么样也爱上不了这样西式的生活，于是又洗面革新，重回“正途”。其实是这样的，在中国长大的我们骨子里挥之不去的是中国的情结，西式的疯狂西式的堕落，我们只可以浅尝，只可以偶尔作客，却不能常留；就如同我只能尝试理解却不能接受前面我所提到的宾大的美国孩子们对于爱情和婚姻的看法一样；我想，这可能是我永远不能够融入本地社会的原因。不过，或许，美国有好多种主流文化，我所体验的只是当中的一支，总会有一支比较吻合我的价值观的；也兴许，现在年轻的我们还没有资格对婚姻爱情指手画脚地大加评论，10年后，大家会自有公道。 |
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